Under One Roof Counseling

Many couples come to me because they feel like roommates instead of lovers and arguments have become the norm. You might be stuck in the same loop about chores, money or sex and feel unheard no matter how many times you talk it through. Perhaps there has been a betrayal and the trust you once had feels shattered. Or you love your partner but you have different levels of desire or want to explore kink or non‑monogamy and don’t know how to bring it up without causing conflict. It is painful to admit that a relationship you value feels brittle, yet there is a path forward that doesn't always come back to high conflict interactions. At Under One Roof Counseling I work with couples and individuals living in Westminster, Arvada, Denver and greater Colorado. Together we slow down and identify the needs that drive your conflicts. We look at the patterns you each bring from your families and past relationships so you understand why you react the way you do. I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to help you notice moments when you disconnect and practice turning toward each other. My practice is sex positive and kink affirming and I welcome clients exploring open relationships and polyamory as well as those who prefer monogamy. Real change happens when you feel supported and challenged. I will listen carefully and I will also call you out when you slip back into old habits. Together we will develop tools you can use outside of therapy. If there has been infidelity we will work through the hurt and rebuild trust. If you are planning a wedding, premarital counseling can help you align on finances, intimacy and shared goals so you start your marriage on solid ground. I believe that laughter and play are as important as working through tough issues. We will celebrate progress and honor setbacks. Most of all, I want you to leave therapy feeling equipped to handle the next challenge together. I offer in‑person and online sessions and a complimentary consultation so you can decide if we are a good fit. Whether you need help with communication, want to reignite desire, are healing from infidelity or exploring non‑traditional relationships, reach out and take the first step toward feeling close again.