Under One Roof Counseling

I’m not the kind of therapist who just listens and sends you on your way. If you come in for therapy once a week, there are still 167 other hours outside of our therapy bubble where life is happening, and that's where change needs to stick. Working together we will look at what is really driving the arguments, the emotional distancing, or feeling like “we’re basically roommates." The goal is to start building tools you can actually use at home. I'll make sure you leave our very first session with an understanding of what the journey towards fixing the problem looks like. You're here because ultimately you feel unheard. That same fight keeps happening. You might be unsatisfied in your sex life or just don't know how to bring up something you saw online and really want to try. I'm here to help provide the space to explore those dynamics. I am sex positive, kink-informed, and experienced in supporting clients who are in or exploring non-monogamous relationships. You're feeling stuck in the same cycles of your relationships. I believe that as we maintain relationships for a long time, it's completely natural to form bad habits. We assume we know what our partner is thinking because, let's face it, you probably know exactly how they breathe when they're annoyed. I believe the only way to repair a relationship is to break the old habits. The only way to do that is to get everyone on-board and into therapy together, because nothing is going to change if one person feels like they're doing all the work. Whatever brings you in, my job is to help you get unstuck, communicate in ways that land, and find your way back to the connection you want. I am straightforward, but I am also on your team. We will experiment with new skills and figure out what went wrong when some don't work. In our work together we will always take the hard stuff seriously, but also recognize that there is value in leaving room to laugh too. Sometimes a shared laugh after a shared cry can be the first step back toward feeling close again. If you want real conversations, actually useful tools, and a therapist who will call you out on your "patterns" while still having your back, give me a call and let's chat.